I believe that audiences will forever be captivated by stories such as the recent ”Craig’s List” story because the message speaks to so many people living ” secret lives.” Hopefully not nearly as profound or dangerous.
Let’s face it, you’re pretty much invisible behind a computer screen. I guess that explains all of the internet addictions springing up. Hiding is easier than ever. What would happen if you were to REVEAL instead of hide?
I hear countless stories of couples and parents in turmoil because they ”found something” - a text message or internet discovery that was not meant to be revealed. All of this leads to a painful trail of questions, mistrust, and betrayals. These secrets have destroyed many marriages and families.
Remember that beneath all of your secrecy there is a ”need” and sense of isolation.
There are many complex layers to living in secrecy. Layers that not only involve the denial of the person in hiding, but the denial of others close to them.
Everyone is masking something. The question is - to what degree do your secrets interfere with your relationships, happiness, and peace of mind?
You can remain anonymous or you can start revealing your needs. Bottom line - it’s time to break this unhealthy cycle and start connecting on an authentic level.
Even if they’re not secrets, per se, but just unexpressed needs. I remember when I finally learned that you cannot expect your partner to read your mind. It was liberating.